no bike for me

Discussion in 'General Questions' started by crabdance, May 23, 2008.

  1. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Sorry about posting a poor me story but here mine is. I just had a long talk with my wife and it looks like I am not going to be able to get a mb. She is totally against it and thinks I crazy. But the thing that really puts on the brakes is that she says we don't have the money. So until I can save up the money penny by penny I won't be able to get a bike. I'm bummed. I don't want this to be too much of a sob story... I just had to put something down or I would bust. I appreciate everyone for listening. I really do. If I save hard, I might be able to get one in about a year or so. I just hate having to wait that long.

    anyway... thanks for putting up with me for a bit... just needed to get it out some so I would not blow up on my wife. Thanks everyone.


  2. HoughMade

    HoughMade Guest

    Sorry to hear that, but keep your eye out for parts and maybe build just a bike up the way you want it, then get the engine when you can.

    The bike in my signature started as a $25 perfectly good rider from a flea market- then I went nuts.

    Good luck!
  3. Dude are you the guy that was gonna get Mark's bike?
    I'm sure your wife means well thank you economy but these are some considerations:
    1)You're 54 years old.
    2)The money you save in gas will pay for your bike in the first 2,000 miles of use.
    Calculate your gas mileage hopefully you got an old ford truck that gets 12 mph that's even better and figure how much money will go in your tank to go 2,000 miles.
    Now figure a happy time (mine anyway) will go 80 miles on a tank or 160 miles a gallon.
    Even one tank at 80 miles of riding compared to a 12 mpg truck your truck will burn almost 7 gallons of gas. When gas goes to 4 dollars a gallon that's 28 bucks.
    Your 80 miles on your Happy Time costed you TWO DOLLARS.
    That's 26 dollars in your pocket and that's only 80 miles of driving.
    Even if you have an economy car you still save gas.
    If your economy car gets 35 mpg you need 2 and a bit more...lets just say 2 gallons to go 80 miles. That's 8 bucks. You now have 6 dollars in your pocket enough to buy lunch.
    3) What does your happiness mean to you?

    4) You don't need no registration. You don't need no insurance. You can sell that extra vehicle. You only need one (assuming you have more than one car) therefore your bills will drop significantly.

    I'm not gonna say any more cause your wife will probably want to ring my neck and I'm sure she has more than a good reason not to allow you this joy,but at the same time,life is so short.
    I hope you hit the lotto. :grin:

    (edit) I forgot to add in the cost of 2 stroke oil. It's a couple of bucks a quart. Figure about 35 cents a gallon?
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  4. Hybridbiker

    Hybridbiker Member

    Yeah it cost money for the investment, but as mentioned it pays for itself over and over everyday you use the bike, plus its fun, gives you a chance to get away from the wife lol.
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  5. SirJakesus

    SirJakesus Guest

    Sorry to say this but how much stuff does she have that she wants?
    How many times do you hear "we need -------" and shells out on it. A MB isn't a huge investment and can bring you tons of enjoyment and travel savings. As long as this isn't going to be another "toy" that will collect dust I think you should have this discussion again with her or do it without her approval unless she's the one bringing home all the dough. A man has needs, and for a lot of us tinkering is one of them. It's not like you want to add new $2,000 rims to your pos car or anything.
    As I said before, I've taken my new MB out more than my Suzuki SV650s this year not only because --I-- made it. It saves me on gas for my motorbiking enjoyment and it's much more a source of pride than an off the shelf made in a factory consumer product.
    I would bet real money if you mentioned we should get product X (being something she would like) she would say "yeah we could really use that" or some other garbage and let you open the communal purse for it.
    If you ride your MB to work you'll save tons in gas, If I rode mine to work I'm sure it would pay for itself this summer alone.
    Again, sorry for the rant.. I'm just sick of hearing about guys who have had their souls removed by their "significant other" If this is just truly another throw away toy for you and little Jimmy needs his medicine then by all means you have priorities, but if your house is filled with useless nick-knacks and you treated yourself to just a simple bulk pack of dvd jewel cases this past x-mas and really want to be a motoredbiker by all means follow your childhood dream with the wind whipping through your hair and the tears of joy and wind in your eyes.
  6. dbigkahunna

    dbigkahunna Guest

    I get to play with these things cause I make the $$, I quite drinking and hanging out in wine sheds. My wife just rolls her eyes.
    Ya know if you have a bike and a weedeater, you pretty much have everything you need for a motored bicycle. You have to do a little fabrication, but a friction drive MB is very doable
  7. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Thank you Hybridbiker... you made me laugh.. I needed that!
  8. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Hi HoughMade, Here's the weird part. My wife said that she saw nothing wrong with buying me a bike.... just not the engine. She says for one thing that it's because I'm not mechanical and don't know much about engines and stuff. I told her that I could learn and she just laughed. She's right. I don't know much about that kinda stuff... I missed out on those genes when I was born but I would still be willing to learn :).

  9. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Hi Large,
    Thanks for all the reasons why it's a good idea to get a mb. I agree with you on all accounts. I like the one where you say "what does your happiness mean to you?". That's a good one. I wish I could convince my wife but she is very hard headed when it comes to this. She won't budge no matter what kind of reasoning I throw at her. I will remember the arguments and try them out on her though. I'm hard headed too and will keep trying. Maybe I will put things down on paper and "submit" them to her lol. It's a thought anyway. Thanks man.

  10. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Hi SirJakesus, Yea, my house is filled with useless nick-knacks. They cover the walls. It's stuff my wife likes and I would never say a thing about it. And you are right about guys having their souls removed by their significant other. I feel like that sometimes. I know what you mean. I'm not saying that my wife is terrible... she just isn't open minded about things sometimes. Especially when it comes to something that I want :). I don't really know what to do about this. We are just butting heads about it. She says we can't do it and I say I want to do it really bad. Don't know how this will end in the long run. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

  11. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Hi dbigkahunna, Thanks for the info about the weedeater. Didn't know that you could do that :). Not sure I know enough to fix it without a kit though. I pretty much dumb when it comes to mechanical things. I do have a weedeater that we haven't used in about 3 years... would still need to get a bike. Maybe I could fix up a mb with the weadeater engine while I'm saving up for a 4 stroke? Can you tell me a little more about it? That question goes for anyone that knows about it. Thanks all.

  12. eljefino

    eljefino Member

    Let the issue drop for a period of time, say 2-6 months.

    Then all of a sudden get one and brag about the hella deal.
  13. Esteban

    Esteban Active Member

    Leave wife,,, get a dog,, get a motoredbike. Dog won't say a word about it !
  14. Here's a thought,crabdance.

    Buy a bike for you AND the wife and do some easy bike riding. Then bring the topic back by mentioning "Wow. Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't have to pedal so much" or " I wonder how far we can actually go"
    Yes. Maybe she just feels left out. Every time my wife feels left out I offer her a ride. I even offer her to build her a bike (It would have to be a Titan. I don't think she can deal with a manual clutch) but she hasn't bit yet.
    It sounds like you've been married a long time. I've been married 21 years this July coming (or is it June....oh noes).
    She's the love of my life and what's kept my marriage going is that I make sure she feels like she is right. She wouldn't have gone for this also except that I nearly died needing a quintuple bypass and when I recovered I needed some exercise. Then I went for a 2 stroke happy time kit and she was a little upset at first but with the making things right mentality I just redirected that anger and made her feel like my princess.
    I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking about.
    Don't be angry. Just let her feel important and soon she'll agree with whatever you may want!
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  15. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    Good Idea Large, But I think she would see right through it. Even if I waited a little while to suggest it. She's a pretty sharp little cookie. Yea, I've been married for a while. Not as long as you though. We only been married about Ten years but have been together for about 14 years. Our anniversary is April 22nd... you know how I remember (here's a tip for ya). That's the name I give my computer so I always know what it is, lol.

    Glad you made it through the bypass ok. That's some bad stuff and I'm glad to know that everything worked out ok for you.

    I don't have to make my wife feel like she's right.. she already knows that she is, lol. And proud of it.

    I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm really bummed about not being able to get a mb. I don't know what to do with the wife. Thanks for the suggestions. I really appreciate that from everyone. If anything at all comes to mind please let me know. I'm open to anything. Thanks for the suggestions large.

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  16. crabdance

    crabdance Member

    That's a thought Esteban..... I know a dog wouldn't care at all :).
  17. bluegoatwoods

    bluegoatwoods Well-Known Member

    I like Eljefinos advice.

    What I did is I simply bought two engine kits and didn't say a word about it. When my wife found out, she was mad. But then I live with that nearly every day. When the kits arrived, she was suspicious but she didn't cause too much trouble. When she saw that they actually worked she became a bit more enthusiastic.

    One thing that has surprised me a bit, though, is that after her initial enthusiasm wore off she is really quite uninterested in riding. She pretends but she won't do any serious riding. (What she seems to really want is for me to chauffeur her around at $4.00 plus per gallon.) But the kids benefit; they get to ride more than they might have otherwise.

    But to get back to the point; you can get a happy time set-up for $300.00 bucks, which includes a brand new (entry level) bicycle.

    You could probably sell something and get that much together. And if you just manage to save some fuel using your bike, then your wife won't have a leg to stand on when she complains. Seeing is believing. She might come to terms with it more easily than it seems right now.
  18. Zev0

    Zev0 Member

    Try this one on her.

    "If you love someone, help them do what they want to do, not what you want them to do."
  19. Yea. The guilt trip.
    That's powerful that tool it is.

  20. ibdennyak

    ibdennyak Guest

    guilt trip

    Ha ha guys. :smile: Makes me glad I'm single